When we read an article of interest to us we tend to have an opinion before we are even finished reading. I say this because with these articles which I have written about our Veterans some readers have formed an opinion against me (the messenger) while missing the whole point of the article.
Our Veterans deserve the respect that is due to them. Sometimes, when the story hits home from us having a personal experience with a veteran whether we just met them or we already know them as a friend. This happened to me over a year ago. In my next article, Part (5) of “What about our Veterans”, I’ll break down the meaning and experience I had with a veteran, who, after meeting him, I would have never guessed he was a war veteran.
The question I am considering in this article is, How can we thank our veterans? It’s true that to some degree the thanks our veterans need has already been bestowed upon them by us in that they are here with us today, but that doesn’t mean that there isn’t more that we can do to let them know how much we appreciate everything they have done for us and will continue to do in the future when called upon to defend our nation. We certainly owe them much more than just saying thanks when the opportunity presents itself.
Why do military families have higher rates of divorce?
There are many reasons for military families having higher rates of divorce, but one major reason is simple: service members experience separation anxiety in deployment, and it doesn’t matter if they are deployed overseas or in a war zone—they still feel like they’re leaving their loved ones behind. This separation anxiety is often at its highest when children are in school; after all, kids ages 6-12 struggle with separation issues when even their parents leave for work each day.
Imagine how difficult it must be to send your child off to school every morning knowing that you might not see them again for weeks or months! It’s easy to understand why military couples experience such stress and end up divorcing. These stressors only increase as their kids get older and start dealing with more developmental changes (and conflicts) on top of those already posed by deployment alone.
If you ever had an argument or rough patch with your spouse, imagine going several months without seeing him/her. That’s what many military couples deal with on a regular basis during deployments… And it’s no wonder they eventually choose to separate. To make matters worse, frequent deployments result in less time for personal bonding between spouses/partners—many military marriages do not develop well because there simply isn’t enough time together.
Of course, divorce statistics aren’t always able to account for these facts; some people may file under other when asked about marital status if their relationship ended due to unusual circumstances. For example, perhaps someone was divorced due to adultery committed while he or she was away at war; infidelity is always grounds for divorce in most states, regardless of deployment.
Others may decide to live apart but continue filing taxes as married because it makes financial sense; others may file as unmarried even though they’re romantically involved with someone else. More than likely, high rates of divorce among military families stem from multiple causes that can vary greatly from case to case.
Putting themselves on the line every day
Our veterans are American heroes. They’re putting themselves on the line every day to defend us and protect us. Would our children be safe without them? I don’t think so. They’ve done it for many years, they continue to do it today, and they will still be doing it tomorrow. We must never forget what these soldiers have done for us. If only there was some way to show our gratitude! Some way that would have a tangible effect on their lives…hmmm…. Well, there is something else we can do: support organizations working with veterans – for example, The Wounded Warrior Project. How about you? What are you doing to thank our military members? Please share your thoughts in the comments below!
Don’t let PTSD take away everything they love Because of everything mentioned above, veterans are at increased risk of developing post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). PTSD affects 7.7 million Americans each year, including 10% of Iraq war vets. It takes away their sense of purpose, security, and safety – along with things that everyone needs to enjoy life – like being able to work effectively or have an intimate relationship with family or friends.
Trauma expert Dr. Marla Deibler, M.D., uses functional neurology to treat traumatic brain injuries, scars from amputations or burns as well as psychological injuries such as anxiety and depression. These conditions affect tens of thousands of current servicemen as well as our veterans from past wars. Today, OMP has treated thousands of patients who previously had seen no other option but prescription drugs and/or psychoactive drugs that had severe side effects. What an incredible difference!
This treatment actually makes people feel better than they did before they were injured! Plus, results occur very quickly – sometimes after just one session. Treatment works because it supports a part of your brain that is dedicated to regulating emotions and maintaining a calm body state – areas injured by trauma. In addition, the treatment also helps normalize brain functioning via noninvasive techniques designed specifically for traumatic injury survivors. I believe supporting groups such as The Wounded Warrior Project and Operation Mend would help people better appreciate all those sacrifices made by our soldiers.
I hope you enjoyed reading these posts about how to give back to our veterans…and if you didn’t see them yet, here are links to Part 1 , Part 2 , Part 3 . I can’t begin to stress the importance of not just giving back to our veterans, but the importance of letting them know we have their backs at all times. They give and will continue giving unconditionally with the most important thing known to all of us, and that is with the ultimate gift, their life. The next article we are going to talk about
- Stress from dangerous deployments
- Parents returning from war
- Our Unsung Heroes